Howdy Hasblack. My ping is about 30ms in the game. I also see other drivers at this distance. The issue with the Driver list at 3000m is not related to your internet speed. As far as other players not seeing you, Before you log into the game go here
https://www.speakeasy.net/speedtest/ and select a server in the mid west U.S. this will show your true internet speed. Hope this helps.